Saturday, April 12, 2014
BEING IN LOVE IS NOT THE SAME AS LOVE
What better feeling is there in the world than when you fall in love? It makes you feel light, and everything seems right in the world. The in love feeling is one of the most blessed feelings given to us by our Creator. It removes anxiety, and makes you feel stress-free and care-free. Unfortunately however, the in love feeling does not last. It's short-lived because it only lasts for a time. It may go on for days, or months, or even for a few years, but after a while, the initial in love feeling will dissipate. When that feeling goes away, a lot of people panic, believing that the have fallen out of love, and in a sense they are correct. If you can fall in love, then certainly you can fall out of it. We see this as a loss of love, and sometimes we do everything in our power to bring it back, hoping to re-kindle "love lost."
The truth of the matter is that the in love feeling is nothing more than the Creator implanting within our hearts the seeds of love for another person. It is only a seed. It is not love. It comes about through chemical processes within our bodies, triggered by our desires and hormones, that cause a rise of dopamine in the brain, that gives us that high feeling of being in love. As Tina Turner (famous singer) says in her well known song, What's Love Got to Do With It, it's only a chemical reaction. Since this is only the seed of love, and not love, then like any other seed, it needs to be watered and nourished in order for it to grow into love, so that it can produce more seeds of love, and replenish itself. The mistake many people make is to consume the seed of love, thus not allowing it to grow into love itself. So the key to maintaining this in love feeling is to plant the seeds of love in your heart and let it grow into love, from which will grow many, many more seeds of love.
"And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper" (Psalm 1:3, KJV).
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